I know the power of love. I teach love is this the best tool for surviving, and thriving anything! Today I received a letter from Jule Aguirre, a friend and co worker. She had reached out to me, inquiring about my husbands health. I shared how he was, and how I was-am.
Being a private person and a highly visible figure, my life’s often like an open book. I have learned to deal with this, and with all the energy good and bad that comes my way. It’s a lot to handle.
Jules message was perfect. Just what I needed, and it reminded me of the power of love, and in the need for me to connect, and reach out.
Her message: I will check-in in a few days to learn of the ultrasound results. I can only imagine the stress you are under, Debbie, and it is only natural that you, your body, your emotions, all of YOU, would hit a wall, landing in depression and sadness. Witnessing a loved one deteriorate in health is astoundingly stressful, the fear, the uncertainty, and the overwhelming navigation through our healthcare systems—the whole dynamic of ‘compassion fatigue” is REAL. What action plan do you have to take care of YOU while Jeff is going through these tests and treatments? Being the Top Dog of Nia, I wonder if you have people around you who can be there to support you, intimate friends/family to listen, to help you with some of the little things, and big things—you need this now. Do not stand alone on the mountain top. You are a strong woman, and yet, there are other strong women (and perhaps men) in your sphere who can stand with you in your pain, to be there to lighten the load, bind together with you to create stability and unbreakable strength (like a rope). Ask for help. Let others do for you and have at least one confidant who you can talk/share/vent with, and find something nurturing to do for yourself each day. Is there anything I can do to support you? I am here if you need me. Don’t hesitate to call on me.
I did. I will. Thank you.